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Perhaps your first move should be to test the water by bringing the subject of homosexuality up with friends and gauging their reactions. Remember though, that this can never be a totally accurate way of finding out how people feel about homosexuality; some may appear homophobic simply because their friends express prejudice. Maybe they don’t want to be different and risk negativity themselves. These people may react totally different to you actually coming out, and be totally supportive. There are no set rules on how people will react; it may be okay in a friends eyes that media figures like Julian Clary are gay, but not so cool if you are - or viceversa. Being honest with yourself about your sexuality is as important as being honest with others. Pretending to yourself that you are not gay will only make you unhappy. You have to make the best of what lif has given you; you can have a happy and successful life, like anyone else.

You should only come out when you feel ready. Never do it because someone else thinks you should. It’s a personal thing so follow your instincts. Be sure of who you are and what you want before you tell others that you are gay.

Being gay is just one part of you. Any friends who ditch you after you come out obviously aren’t true friends. Otherwise they’d see past your sexuality to what it is about you which made them want to be friends with you in the first place.
You may find that you get closer than before to your friends after coming out. Now there are no secrets, you can be open and more relaxed in your relationships with others. Hiding your sexuality always keeps friends at a certain distance. Coming out removes barriers. Coming out is as exciting as it is scary. I promise you that in the long run, you’ll feel better for taking the step, but only when you feel you want to, if at all. Good luck and let me know how you get on.
The cat is coming out!
Even the cat is coming out!