"Gay life ends at 30."
Maybe true... if you hang around with shallow and narrow-minded people. Remind them if you see them: they're getting older too!
To some, both on and off the scene, who judge others on looks and sexual appeal alone, the under 30 benchmark may be of some importance. To everyone else, and those with a little more depth, it’s of no importance at all.
The over 30’s gay man and woman still have relationships, sex and a life.
Anyone who runs away when they hear you’re on the other side of 30, isn’t worth your time. Don't fear getting older as losing your hope of finding sex and love. You have plenty of time.
The more experienced and mature person can be very attractive.
"As a gay person you really should be out clubbing on the scene, and sleeping with as many people as possible."
Rubbish! On the rare occasion you do see gay men depicted on television, you may be fooled into believing the above statement (Queer As Folk, anyone?), but it’s not true. Clubbing is not a compulsory gay activity, and neither is sleeping around – don’t believe all you see.
Many gay people enjoy social lives away from the scene and use alternate means for meeting others for friendship and relationships, such as the internet or local gay youth groups.
Sure, some gay people do enjoy the sexual freedom the scene can provide, and there’s nothing wrong with that, but you can go clubbing and leave alone at the end of the night. Relax and do what feels right for you.
The scene can be a lot of fun, and a relaxed place where you can be yourself with other gay people. Enjoy it if you choose to, but always be yourself and maintain your individuality.
If you are looking for a gay club or pub in your area, check out the listing in the Gay Times (both the magazine and website).
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